R’s storyPosted: 26/09/2012
Now I need to try to get a job in March (April at the latest) before most are released after the May half term break. If I don’t then we will need to stump up the (18600GBP x2.5) + 16000GBP = 62500GBP in savings. If my property sells, we might make some of it, but not all. And if it doesn’t…. I take our 18-month old twins away and leave their other parent alone in Bangkok? I don’t see another option – it would be better for me to leave, find work and appeal than to stay here without a job or a Visa – that would mess up appeals / further applications. However, it would mean living as a single parent trying to meet the 18600 whilst spending half my salary on rent and half on childcare. In that case, I would definitely be seeking Working tax credits and claiming government support I would otherwise not be in need of! My parents should not be denied the right to see their grandchildren. All of this has come as a serious blow to our excitement at the family’s imminent arrivals at what should have been a joyous time.
In the event that I do get a job, the next problem is housing. We have several options of friends / family who might be able to accommodate us temporarily while we organise a rented place, but that may well stand against us as insecure/ non-permanent. So must we arrange and pay for a (London) rental contract in March /April which we must continue to pay for for its duration even in the event of an unsuccessful Visa application?
It seems so unfair – both of us have been employed without break in the last 10 years and are graduates (and I have two postgraduate qualifications). I worked as a teacher in state schools for 5 years, left for a two year break to broaden my own horizons and fell in love. I’m still here, but had I realised the door to my own country would be closed to me when I wanted to come back, would I have left? Of course not – it changes everything!
Ironically, my (also highly qualified) brother who works in Tanzania is in the same situation -he has a Tanzanian girlfriend. My poor parents.