Bassem’s story

My wife and I knew each other in 2005 and we started a relationship as boyfriend girlfriend from 2006. We had our ups and downs, but we managed to get through all of them and we decided to get married in Egypt by the end of 2009. You can say a lot of things about my home country, Egypt, but when my wife applied for her residency visa, they gave it to her in one day. Why? Because she has an Egyptian husband and that was enough. We applied for her citizenship as well, they said come back in 2 years time and it should be ready. Egypt had the revolution in 2011, yet we managed to get her the citizenship no problem. We had 2 children who were born in Egypt by an Egyptian doctor and my eldest son had all his vaccinations in Egypt. But things have gone from bad to worse since 2013. We didn’t feel hopeful about staying in Egypt, so we had to take the hard choice and go to the UK. We both loved Egypt but we both knew that it wouldn’t be a good place for the asthmatic symptoms of our child.
Now i have to wait for six months to can apply for my residency, which I find it strange. My country which has all the problems in the world, still knows more than the UK how important family values are. I can understand where they are coming from, but when you already have two children I think we should get a greater priority and the UK should ease the regulations. My wife didn’t come to Egypt as a tourist, she was working there with me and we are the same age – well she’s 4 months older than me; I tease her every year that I am 4 months younger ūüôā
So I quit my job and came across to the UK with my family visit visa. I stay at home, jobless, while I know I could support the house financially. I think they haven’t thought about right and all what they want is to have the right money. We are treated the same as sham marriages and we can’t do anything about it, but to wait, and that is very annoying and aggravating.
Thanks for your solidarity guys.

Mary’s story

In year 2013 I was pregnant for first time (I am a 34 year old British-Iranian ). I like many other first time mothers wanted to have my family with me at the time of birth or shortly after I invited my mom from Iran to come and be with me. As there is no UK embassy in Iran my mom had to travel to turkey to apply for visa. I booked her hotel and paid for her visa application which was about £340 as well as flights. She went there, stayed for three weeks and shockingly she was refused.

She has been to the UK 11 times has always been given two year family visas has always only stayed one or two months and has always returned to Iran. She has a house and a flat that rents and she showed £7000 in her savings account and a regular income. My dad is 74 and he was not even travelling. They said my mom is not trustworthy and might stay in the UK and access public funds. My mom has always brought money to the UK. In fact in 2006 my mom sold one her properties in Iran and brought £165000 to UK. In the 1990s she brought £70000 to the UK. Later in 2009 she sent £40000 and it has never been an issue.

When I heard my mom was refused the visa I gave birth not having any of my family with me. I became depressed after giving birth. My child is the first and only grandchild. My mom has not seen her and neither have any of my family. The story comes more dramatic when my marriage in Iran was not approved and my child counted as illegitimate according to Islamic law. I can not take my child to Iran unless my husband goes to the Iranian Islamic centre in London and convert to Islam: a religion that nor me not my husband believe in or practice. All this in order to be allowed to apply for a visa to take my child to Iran. I feel trapped in a prison ¬†and back in Iran I felt the same I don’t know where on this planet I can go to live a simple life and feel free.

Martyn’s story

My name is Martyn a British Citizen working as a teacher in Cambodia. My wife is Thai and we have two sons who are also British citizens one boy is 5 and the other 1 year who is still breast fed. As we had bad news that my mother is not going to live long we decided to take the boys to the UK so my wife tried the English test, but failed. The next step we applied for a family visit visa for 6 months thinking that would give us time for my wife to learn English and then take the test again. My sister has enough income to support us. My wife has been refused on the grounds that she does not intend to return.

I am devastated of the outcome. How do I take a breast fed son who is British without his mother? Six months in the UK he will be settled but it is impossible to travel 20 hours on a plane without his mother although I will try. I don’t know what to do now. My work over here is without a contract and the immigration wants me to show I will return to Cambodia with my two children. Is this against all human right laws? I am British born and my mother and father are the oldest married couple in the UK – with three letters from HM Queen.

Four people were shot at the end of our street in Cambodia this week it is not safe here. I am 62 and can no longer work as a teacher so we have to part our family with great stress and upset.

Zara’s story

I am British and I met my Dominican husband in January 2011. I was living and working in the Dominican Republic and he had just started working at the Canadian company I was working for. We now have a 16 month old son, who was born in the Dominican Republic. We decided the UK would be the best place for us to raise our family, also I wanted to return due to my mother being very ill. Due to the minimum income threshold being set at ¬£18,600 we were not quite sure how we would do this. We decided in May 2013 we applied for the UK 6 month family visitor visa, to enable us to return to the UK, and for me to try and find employment in the ¬£18,600 area, which proved impossible and I have had to settle for a job earning ¬£14,100 a year. The 6 month family visitor visa was granted and we came to the UK on 15th July 2013, and my husband returned to the Dominican Republic yesterday 7th January, we got to spend out son’s 1st birthday together as a family, to spend Christmas, New year and our 1st wedding anniversary together, which we are ever so grateful for. But now what do we do, we just have to sit and wait until March to see if the government lower the income threshold to ¬£13,400 a year. Last night was our 1st night apart as a family, and our son woke 8 times during the night, our son never wakes during the night, all I can put it down to is that he must know something isn’t quite right. I just wish the government would think of all these families torn apart because they don’t seem to have been born with a heart. I am praying everyday that the threshold is reduced is March, if it isn’t then I am not sure what we will do, because there are no jobs where I live that pay ¬£18,600 a year, unless I work every hour God sends, and I refuse to leave my child not seeing his mother when he already has been seperated from his father, and I also refuse to kill myself, for a selfish government.

Sheehan’s story

I am a 22 year old British citizen who is pregnant with my first child. A year ago I went to Cambodia temporarily where I met the father of my child, fell madly in love and ended up deciding to stay and live there to be with him. We are now expecting the birth of our first child and although we are both extremely happy about becoming parents the new immigration laws have gave me so much stress during the pregnancy (so much I have even had to consider if I can keep the baby or not.) Cambodia is a country where you can only make a tiny amount of money to live and the living standards are nothing compared to what I have grown up with in the UK. I now feel however unless the immigration laws are changed I have no chance of ever living in the UK again unless I am willing to break up my family and leave my partner to stay in Cambodia. I am increasingly worried about my lack of options and have come to realise if we cannot provide for our child sufficiently on a Cambodian wage (which is around £40 a month) I will have to consider leaving my family to come to the UK alone to earn money or rely on my British family for help. If it were possible for us to live in the UK neither my partner or I would rely on government hand-outs but as I have no degree or career it would be impossible to meet the £22,000 a year requirement to sponsor both my partner and child.  I am so happy to be starting my family but feel as though It is causing my exile from the UK.

Connie and Paul’s story

I’m an American who came to the UK in 2009 to broaden my horizons through a graduate art program. I earned a partial scholarship for the program, quit my soul-sucking job, and moved half-way around the world for a year. Despite being completely out of my comfort zone, transitioning into the British lifestyle clicked almost instantly, some of my fellow students ended up being close friends I’ll have for life. And despite my great reluctance, I fell in love for the first time, with a Brit. Paul was a part-time student in the same masters program; we bonded over films, American fast-food and British comedy. He was just the icing on the cake to this awesome experience I was having.

Fast-forward to the end of the program, I, along with a few cohort members, failed the last phase of the program. We weren’t given any warning or proper explanation as to why our projects weren’t “up to standard.” I fought long and hard with the administration, even opting to have the decision appealed. It was denied, simply because I hadn’t submitted a form, which was something the administration failed to tell me when I went to them for help about the procedure. I wasn’t getting my degree and more importantly, without the degree I couldn’t apply for a visa and would have to return home.

Saying goodbye to all my friends and Paul was one of the hardest things I’ve ever had to do. Upon returning home, I had troubles picking myself up again and fell into a deep depression. The arbitrary and corrupt nature of the university left me feeling pretty hopeless and then when July rolled around, the new immigration rules felt like being kicked while I was already down. Combined with the recession, both here and in the UK, coming by work was (and still is) an uphill battle. So basically, we’re stuck indefinitely until someone can find work, and in Paul‚Äôs case work that pays above the pointless bar the Coalition has set.

The constant misinformation and attacks upon immigration are entirely counter to the history and strengths of both the US and the UK. Immigration has been a fundamental building block of the countries, both socially and economically, and to see politicians and media commentators refute this in the face of the facts they are presented with is disgusting and disheartening. For us, and for so many others, these actions keep us locked apart for petty and unsubstantial reasons.

A parent’s story

Are British laws made for people with money?


Government law states that the new minimum wage is £6.31

Government law states that a working week should not be more than 48 hours.

United Kingdom Border Agency (UKBA) requirements for a British subject to bring their spouse into the UK are that they must be earning £18,600 a year.

Now £6.31 multiplied by 48 equals £302.88

£302.88 multiplied by 52 weeks equals £15,749.76


Therefore if someone was to earn the Government minimum wage even if they were able to work 48 hours per week for 52 weeks, they would still not be able to reach the UKBA requirements. (Note 52 weeks means no sick leave for casual workers no public holidays and no leave unless it’s paid leave)


It is the UKBA that allows students to enter the UK and although they cannot stop them from falling in love, young people seem to do this.


Such is the case for my son and his partner who are married.


A British student who leaves University in today‚Äôs economic climate finds it hard to get work so they end up being waiters or packers and therefore end up on the minimum wage and more often than not do not get to work 48 hours a week. If they are lucky they get 30 to 35 hours. Their foreign partner is not allowed to work more than 20 hours a week. So if the British subject is lucky enough to get 30 hours and the foreign partner gets 20 hours giving a total of 50 hours between them, this is still not enough. ((50×6.31) x52=¬£16,406)


The British student’s parents are prepared to house the couple and feed them but this is not taken into account by the UKBA.

In the case of these two students the foreign student’s parents are residing in the UK with right to remain but their support is not taken into account as well.


I would suggest that the UKBA stop all foreigners from coming into the UK as that is what they seem to want.



A very unhappy parent.